After saying goodbye to your college student on move-in day, one of the hardest things to come to grips with at home is the yawning lack of information as students launch into heir first semester. The Washington Post compiled some pieces of wisdom for parents as they navigate their children’s next step:
Give them space—College students need a grace period to meet people, get involved in campus life and focus on their new environment without constant reminders of home.
Be prepared to listen—Often kids call or text when they’re feeling low. Don’t let their download worry you or ruin your day. It’s probably not ruining theirs.
Offer guidance, not a quick fix—If your child is struggling with a normal issue, such as not finding people they like, hear them out (see above), but don’t leap to offer a fix.
Point them to resources—When your student complains about something they’re struggling with, ask them about resources on campus, and nudge them to pursue those avenues.
Mind the FERPA form—The Federal Educational Rights and Privacy Act protects your student’s information from kindergarten through higher education. Once kids get to college, rights transfer to them, and parents aren’t allowed access without permission. If you’re concerned about how they’ll handle academics, initiate conversations about what you expect them to tell you.
Don’t freak out about grades—It’s normal for students to experience a dip in grades in college. They just need to find their equilibrium with study habits, time management and the social scene, and it may take a semester.
Try to hold back on all the extras—Stop ordering groceries or paying for a laundry service for them, you’re paying for a meal plan and there are washing machines on campus. Students need to develop life skills, and now’s the time.
Know when to get involved: You know your child best, and no one is paying attention like you are. When a health or safety issue isn’t being addressed in a timely way, a phone call from a parent can make a difference. Read the full story.
